When good and bad things happen,  take an optimistic approach and the benefits will be better health, relationships, and job performance.   Optimism is the way of thinking that things are going to be better in the future.  Take a close look at how you explain how good and bad things happen in your life.  Try this:

  • Instead of believing that you are the cause of bad events, believe that external factors are the cause of bad events.
  • Instead of focusing on the things that are unchangeable and permanent, focus on the temporary and fleeting things; those that you can exert some overall control.
  • Instead of thinking that the problem is going to impact all areas of your life and have long lasting ramifications, focus on the specific cause of the problem.

Behaviors that optimists are engaged in include the ability to (1) identify the l(2) see a situation as a challenge and not a threat (3) identify what you can control or influence or leverage and (4) accept the aspects that you cannot control.  Optimists tend to walk toward the problem and come up with strategies to effect change.  They seek information, ask for help, and take action.  The use humor as a coping skills, exercise on a regular basis and eat a healthy diet.   You can build your resiliency by taking a more optimistic approach.